Children & Plants Have Their Own Language: Behaviour

 

    On June 5th I bought a few plants and these were left in the balcony among all other plants to get settled with the fellow plants and environment as these came from nursery and my place was quite new for these new comers. After a few days these were set in big sized pots and I started watering all in the same way since it was very hot those days. A small plant could not settle with the new environment and still available in my balcony but has no life.

Another plant perhaps tried its best to live but over watering or unfavorable environment didn't allow it to live a happy life. Not died but lost all its beautiful green leaves and I really have no idea if it is going to live or leave.

There is a beautiful song चिट्ठी ना कोई संदेश.....and a few relevant lines -

एक आह भरी होगी, हमने ना सुनी होगी
जाते जाते तुमने, आवाज़ तो दी होगी .......They must have spoken in their language and unfortunately I could not understand. 

         To me, a plant and a child looks very similar. Both in growing stage, have their own language,  dependent on others and preparing to reach their real potential but unfortunately not all the plants and nor all the children reach to their real potential. Not because they do not want to but because we fail to understand their language, their needs. A plant needs the sunlight, water, care and favorable conditions to grow, and the same way a child needs an environment to grow to his/her fullest. And most important is they both have a common language i.e. BEHAVIOUR.

When a plant is not showing desired growth we do not yell, do not threaten, do not scold but try to find out the probable causes and treat those. Lets understand our children too in the same way. Lets not just fix the things at surface level but reach to the root causes of any undesired behaviour. Their behaviour speaks more then them.

Children till 18 months are understood by parents. They never complain for their hunger, pain, irritation but they express everything through a cry and parents understand when the infant is hungry or when has a stomachache. But this doesn't continue for a longer period, as they start speaking we assume them to speak like adults.

While children do not have enough vocab to express everything but their behaviour speaks everything. Let's rethink who is failing?

To be continued.........