Parenting & Acceptance

It's pretty true that I am not a parent but fortunately I got a chance to avail lifetime subscription to be amongst children of the right age 3-18 years and along with this could see children raised in families which seems to me a bonus to my personal understanding of children. I always put my efforts to understand children, honestly because I am also one of those who always felt that being a child I was not understood or misunderstood as it suits to the readers of this article but to some what percentage this is the truth with most of us. 

So my first step towards learning to understand children and my conclusion which took years till I started writing a few weeks ago can be concluded this way that "children have their own feelings and at the same time limitations of understanding at each age group" and I validate my journey of understanding them today. 

Not only me but you all must have experienced children for getting hurt over-

-not getting a compliment for timely work submission, 

-over not offering milk in blue mug, 

-or over offering the first mug to sibling and later to him/her, 

-I also saw them crying over not dressing them in their desired one today, 

-over getting hit, teased, for not liking food, 

-for crying to take father's cup of tea instead own mug of milk, 

-over the situation friend didn't allow him to play with his toys and so on. 

These are such nonsense topics to talk over but only when we overlook the children as an important part of each situation. And so I am gonna talk over these nonsense topics.

We are missing here, missing out our children, their feelings, their presence, their individuality and we miss out the opportunities to understand them and teach them the lessons of life just by denying their perception and their feelings. 

We need to put ourselves in their shoes and know how they feel and also that they have their limitations to express exactly what they feel. The gap between us is not of years but of understanding and empathy, when one is crying aloud or annoyed just because s/he said is still feeling tired when awake after an hour and you say no, you can't feel tired because slept for an hour, or like no need to cry milk is milk be it in a blue mug or white and believe me it's a tough job to understand their feelings.

But Understanding is essential, when you feel cold they may feel hot, just to know that unknowingly or unintentionally you are not just imposing your perception over them. What to understand is EMPATHY which obviously doesn't come naturally since that's not our mother tongue. Let’s practice it and that required for unlearning of getting our own feeling denied most of the times or always so naturally we can refuse theirs and by practicing we can be empathetic. Let's unlearn & relearn for the sake of children and practice ACCEPTANCE.

Have a happy parenting...!!!

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-Manisha